The naughtiness of it all, breaking rules and doing things others say they don’t do. There is deceit, masses of it, who to tell who not to tell, and communication is often hard, but it is the doms job to get inside the head of the sub. To create a desire, to pick up on tell tale signs and signals.
For many it is a combination of things. But it takes a Dom/Domme and a sub to make it work.
But how do you know if you are a sub?
Submission is exactly that, giving yourself to someone else - to do with you as they wish. If the pleasure of being restrained and flogged is heightened by being told what a disgusting fucking whore you are, and makes your pussy wet, leaving you wanting more, and i mean can’t take your mind of it wanting more, you are most probably submissive. But ask yourself a question. Could you to these things to someone else, with conviction and take pleasure from the experience in the way you get pleasure from submitting? If so, but you also enjoy submission there is a chance you are a switch.
Submissive are generally directed by their Dom and asked to do things that just don’t happen in everyday life. For instance if a sub is commanded to take a picture of her exposed body in a department changing room/public toilet/work staff room...., it would be expected to be done by the sub or face the consequences. I find a hard spanking and or deprivation go a long way in such cases of disobedience.
A Dom will know when to step back and allow the sub some time, he will have read the sign's given off, but it is the Dom’s responsibility to challenge the boundaries, taking a step further each time, the sub will want to be used, want to receive pain and want to please.